Openness

We hope that by reading this you will be able to understand our desires on openness during the adoption process. We respect you as birthparents and hope to be able to live up to your expectations for us, as adoptive parents. We admire the selflessness you exhibit as you make the decisions you are facing. We could not adequately express the gratitude we feel towards you. Our relationship can be a tricky one, but we know it is possible to make this a great experience. We are excited to get to know you and have this relationship grow. Please feel free to ask us about anything.

Openness with you…

We would like to know a lot about you. We hope to be able to tell this child stories about what their birthparents are like and share details about you with them. We would love to have open communication with you throughout this whole adoption process. However, we will respect your desires so if you have different desires, just let us know. We plan to keep an updated website for you to enjoy. Reed is a graphic designer and web developer and plans to use those skills to keep you updated. We are happy to write letters and send pictures as well.

Openness during parenting…

We feel that openness is important. We plan to teach our children about adoption from birth. In fact, we already talk to Chloe about adoption. She has several extended family members that have been adopted and we’ve been talking with her through this process. We would love them to know a lot about you. We would love them to know the things you like and don’t like, and how you deal with stress, happiness, sadness, how you react to different situations so we can appreciate moments when your characteristics shine through. The nurture part of their personality they will develop though us, but all of the nature part comes from you. We know this experience could be difficult for a child. We hope that if a child understands that they are loved by so many people, and if they know where they come from, then they will understand why adoption is such a great thing.

We don’t have a clear line of our desired openness with you, yet. We would like to make those decisions with you as they come. We want to make sure everyone is comfortable with our relationship throughout this process. We do know that we would love to meet you face-to-face and correspond through email. As for the more distant future, we plan to update our blog to keep you updated when you want to be. We can decide other aspects of our relationship as needed.